Sylvanna Devlin

The difficult issue with untangling abuse in America is that no one, particularly men, want to feel as they are the Victim let alone be recognized as such.

There is a tendency for nastiness to be levied by outside parties separate from the see-saw affect of blame in more private relations.

Of course Victims don’t want to come forward, everyone is an asshole from that point on.

Like piranha as soon as someone is made visibly vulnerable, they swarm in with their two penith. A penith being smaller than a penny and they are that petty down to your knickers!

They seem to think it’s open season to treat individuals as punching bags and any complaint is “Victim mentality.”

Okay.

What is victim mentality?

People who have been victimized multiple times are shoved into that slot so much they are more aware of signs of abuse. They are more likely to fold into tears or become suicidal more quickly as they already had a target on their back.

Is the term “victim mentality” really that bad? Or another way abusive assholes try to silence and control repeated victims? Maybe we need that mentality and should celebrate awareness we need to survive.

Maybe we can take control of the term and agree there is a mindset you are conditioned into by years of abuse. As early as high school American women (and possibly men) divide the world into their group, victims, and everyone else.

They craft their perspective into existence with cumulative abuse. And a level of micro criticism that is well – small minded.

A victim is created not born.

But then they gloat over their success because there’s something else working in the psyche of American women.

Tallest poppy syndrome isn’t really always the issue – it’s just a type of target. Those with mental and physical disabilities anyone they consider “other” is an issue.

So let’s look at who Americans are. As pointed out in “Fire and Fury inside the Whitehouse” (By Michael wolf) they are the decadents of people so religiously tight nit that they left the motherland for a country no one knew anything about.

They are defenders and decedents of puritans.

The rest of us have our opinions on that. But puritanical perspectives help them close ranks on a victims and scapegoat. No one can be wrong if they all agree the individual “deserves it”.

No one in your cult-like click can be wrong – in their view anyway.

But no one “deserves” to be on the receiving end of abuse from people who have an instinct about “the less pure”. Or anyone really.

We are perhaps not “pure” in their way. But probably don’t want to be. But they feel they should be in charge as the “alpha community”,

Everyone else is beta or omega and the last is a walking target that can’t resist without the puritanical click pointing the finger at a worldview they nurtured into being.

The negative kind of nurturing. And yes a victim’s perspective does form. But we should not be ashamed of developing survival skills.

We should not shy away from the term. Abusers sense victims. And as I write this they complain shouting out a slew of words means “they are helping”

No honey. Please piss off. I’m concentrating here.

But they want what they want and that is to avoid being challenged. Victims struggle to come forward because it makes them feel weak.

But it is abusers who have created that perspective. Don’t let them take control of your worldview.

No one wants to admit to being controlled by fear and abuse, but we are. So we should shed our reigns and accept we do have a mentality – and it’s a good thing.

We don’t want them to have the power?

By god America, you and power struggles.

They do by silencing you.

Speak up.

It’s not your fault they are that skilled at being abusive. Some people are just better at being assholes.

Does that change your opinion now? They are very successful at being awful.

Let’s make sure everyone knows.