Sylvanna Devlin

Cumulative abuse is, as the name suggests, the result of groups attacking and abusing an individual or other group. Ganging up is very human but I’m in the United States, so I am commenting on toxic femininity here.

Groups form for multiple reasons and in this situation we have a significant issue with “tallest poppy syndrome.” They can’t come to my level so they drag me to theirs.

The click mentality everyone has heard much about – and the rest of us thought we left it behind in high school.

They are not the majority but they are the most noticeable – and will presumptively state their hive mind opinion as everyone’s and intend to make it so if everyone else doesn’t either agree or let them.

They tend to hen peck someone to death, but say you deserve it or are abusive for a simple “hey stop that.”

You don’t pushback? They keep pushing and harder. They giggle-gaggle to each other about how saying anything will cause them to continue – saying nothing does also however.

Power and control is the goal, and their abuse is temporarily successful. Until they push too far and a potential body bag (the victim’s) is not enough because no one is holding them accountable for their viscous behavior.

They will not take responsibility for a negative environment. You might, as the victim, say “okay me and my PTSD are being disruptive.” But they won’t admit it’s a reaction to their abuse.

Oh no.

They don’t want you to react.

They just want to say the fuck they like and have you do nothing. But complain if they’re gaslighting you, and doing your nails is preferable to listening.

Well I suppose I should say they were creating the reality they kept telling me to get back to. yours? Yeah, no. You’re in charge of yours and I don’t trust you enough to lead us out of a paper bag.

Deliberate malapropism is deliberate.

There’s more, so much more to cult-like clicks, reality abuse, reactive abuse, cumulative abuse, and hen pecking to death.

Interpersonal relationships can be questionable if the woman is toxic in the way women tend to be.

Which is beyond passive aggressive.

No.

That too.

But Toxic Femininity demands you step in line. While a man might ask you to stay in your lane toxic women want a hive.

And a queen B

That they are fighting over being.

Good god no. But that’s as a group. There’s so much more that women feel entitled about and are thus undermining our hunt for equality.

And entitled to be bitches about sums it up.

Playing stupid? Barbs, baiting, reactive abuse, gaslighting, victim shaming? If they’re male born never mind present gender, women, genderqueer? All others just get blamed.

The inability to respect boundaries comes to mind. As well as their abuse of the word. Good god do I have to add linguistic abuse to the public lexicon? You want us to believe you’re just petty trolls. But the insecurity involved creates a voracious appetite in the abuser. And the victim is of course not exactly steady either.

Stop your bullshit. Get therapy. Stop making your insecurity mine. Like really, you’re holding the rest of us back.

Which is as stated at beginning, the main issue. They perceive me as a potential threat to their dating life, ego, or some existential bullshit I can’t follow yet and would rather not learn.

They consider me better so they have to attack me until I agree to being lesser. Others eyes won’t do. I have to internalize it.

My self esteem, such as it Is, cannot function under such circumstances so I just consider myself unable to maintain my own desired behavior.

I want to be one way and they want power and control. And surely if I want to be so sweet I will be their emotional punching bag.

Fine. Now picky about who I’m sweet to because no amount of sugar will change your sour attitude.

It’s not spice honies. And it’s far from nice.

But the feminine ego is fragile in this country – particularly because they’re bitches to each other. It’s often two way street of who is being the bigger asshole and it’s so annoying I’d rather wax my legs.

Omega individuals are indeed issue for them. But in this kind of situation toxic women use a death of a thousand needles.

And if you don’t have wounds for them to prod at they will create them.

The interesting thing about cumulative abuse is that it is its own kind. An onslaught of thoughtless words. Sometimes Barbs. But all so insulting it’s hard not to view it as reactive abuse – which might need to be considered more singular.

“All I said was….” You and all your cult-like click.

It’s an issue I’m still analyzing but would prefer to avoid. I know every tactic but that doesn’t actually stop it from working.

I’m miserable and the only good thing about the potential other situation is that it will take at least a year to rebuild myself and they have left me with nothing better to do.

I won’t go into detail on the restrictions. I have indeed been cobbled and men blocked as I live in a henhouse full of toxic women.

It’s not exactly ideal.

But erring on the side of caution is preferable to my inability to believe it’s just pure pettiness.

So you say Ranna is a creation? Died of a heart attack? Is no longer interested?

Pick a reality because coming back doesn’t seem possible through your lies. But you’re going to beat that poor horse (my birth year actually) and we are all already sick of you.

Oh wait? Who am I to speak for others?

Fair.

But then who are you, speaking for you presumptuous bitches. Because so far it’s Ranna, the police; all of Oregon, and now you claim America doesn’t want me.

If I can’t speak for those just as sick of your lies, manipulations, and abuse? Maybe you could shut up too.

More might be to come. It depends on how annoyed I get.