Sylvanna Devlin

As the environment seems to ease I am examining what happened as events peter out – and I hope will soon draw to a close.

Someone got the memo that baiting was considered bullying and creating wounds to dig into extra so.

Striking with words usually ends in pain.

And as you shield spots some abusers craft more. But once that’s become too noticeable for the police to avoid they need a new way to harass you.

Because “we’re just playing” is a pack of fucking lies. But everyone backs off wondering if they should suggest the abuser come back to reality.

The only one it’s fun and games for is the asshole who tries to get others to carry the weight of their bullshit.

That’s the difficulty with abusers of all types – including physical. Victim blaming wrapped up with an inability to admit wrong and take responsibility.

Indeed I’m kind of curious if Americans don’t struggle with a high prevalence of abuse in this country from an interesting dynamic.

No one in this country can accept feeling like they don’t know an answer. Everyone says everyone else is stupid and lack of information can lead to lies rather than risk some asshole punching with something along the lines of “why don’t you know? Are you stupid?”

Come on.

Everyone back down from the loaded word now okay? Myself included.

No one likes admitting to being the victim because abusers make us feel like it’s stupid to be beaten up emotionally by them. Being the victim makes so many of us feel stupid because in this country the attitude is “you let them”

No one wants to admit to being duped either. Because it makes them feel stupid.

Look it’s plain not your fault if someone is so good at lying they pride themselves in it! If you find out that’s where there ego is? Run the fuck away.

And no one ever “deserves” abuse or is “asking for it”. Some people certainly make us feel like we’d like someone to bop them on the nose – if not us.

But that’s in a response to behavior. Their attitude sucks and their lashing out and baiting is bullshit. Of course no one really faulted Buzz Alden for the best thwap ever captured on video.

We can’t or at least shouldn’t give someone a swat so we have to live vicariously through that one moment.

Abusers personalities might be questionable but skip out on the “gotcha” bullshit and just plain blanket the idea that it’s none of us if not you, thank you.

What if the harassment is the old fashioned badgering? And the methods are to play stupid or be so obscenely insulting we really do consider playing that clip to relieve stress!

It gets by. “I’m just rude”

Ah.

“I don’t understand basic fundamentals and seem to think that’s your fault.”

Oh too honest I know.

This is why men mansplain. Because American women are rude and aggravating and no one knows when they’re going to pull the stupid routine.

If you pretend you don’t understand basic and obvious stuff, we’re going to think you can’t.

There are other types for sure. But the individual telling Stephen King the Stand didn’t involve courtrooms is… well stupid. But that’s beyond mansplaining. That’s just… I don’t know.

Stupid.

Arrogant know it alls who know nothing are a multi gender issue.

It is annoying if you pause for breath and someone jumps in – I do this by accident. It happens when excited. But that is also a multi gender issue.

I’ve been interrupted more times by women than men.

The thing about some of us (fixed it for you) is we get interested in a topic and energetic – sometimes sharing something that delights us not because it’s news but because it’s just that cool.

American women seem to think if it’s not news they shouldn’t have to hear it.

Men take head when that happens. It’s a divide women don’t feel like they should have to bridge.

The other weird thing with toxic femininity is the anti intellectual fear of learning and failure.

It is perhaps telling they’ve learnt if they don’t make mistakes privately they are open to ridicule – from other women and sometimes (sorry guys) a tedious explanation we don’t need.

There is that side of things and men are more prone to offering unsolicited advice. But they tend to be less nasty about it so I just usually listen and carry on.

But American women are evil to each other. They try to make others feel stupid for being at the beginning point of the learning curve. And that failure is just more of and opening to ridicule.

You fucking bitches.

It’s just an excuse really. They feel powerless in society and don’t have a constructive way of handling that feeling of powerlessness.

They try to rip into strength and vulnerability sometimes making one the other. And everyone assumes (myself again included) it’s just some bullshit jealousy.

But it’s not.

It’s internal weakness.

It’s the need to undermine the strength of another rather than get therapy to fix their shit..

Now some men are micromanaging emotionally abusive assholes. Some are violent.

Sometimes it’s not other women who have dragged them down and it’s possible this culture sucks at raising empowered women so they mistake it for entitlement.

Indeed it’s quite likely.

Entitled women are emotionally abusive bitches or at the very least rude as fuck because Americans aren’t raised understanding the difference between that and being empowered.

There’s where we really need to address the problem because now I’ve swirled down the root issue of weaker on stronger anything is that they feel weak and don’t have a sense of what empowerment is.

So woe if you’re all in shitty circumstances but you still have a powerful mind. Because cognitive abuse is real and when women feel stupid they try to abuse other women into being stupid.

The egghead being a prime target for bullying into an inability to use their mind.

This absolutely has to stop. We have to break this cycle. I don’t know how but maybe if the rest of us see why presumptuous, entitled bitches are the way they are?

We can better address the issue.

We can hope anyway.