Sylvanna Devlin

Once you’ve found a group that loves each other – even if it’s as a large family prone to arguments, it’s hard to be anywhere else.

This world, this country, is particularly scary. And those wounded by the world cling to each other.

But some manipulative leaders create wounds.

Look at the way Trump manipulated a “make America great again” generation into being. If he didn’t have wounds he created them.

He’s still creating them. And he’ll sell himself as the solution.

Cults and close small spiritual- or close to spiritual groups can indeed give a sense of safety.

But quite often that sense is artificial. She has to keep hurting you and keep convincing you the outer world is worse.

You’re getting scared. I get it. That love we feel is real and this argumentative and broken culture is sometimes one we want to draw back from.

And Americans object to criticism even if they would otherwise agree that there’s certainly something wrong.

But maybe it’s the teacup example and not as much broken as a little dysfunctional – if wording is the issue.

Our teacup only has so much room and we’re spilling over – not in land. But putting up with irritations to the point we’re just irritating each other further. Because there’s only so much tea we can handle.

We have to do something for sure.

“Don’t like it, move!” Is the American motto.

Actually I love it here, enough to want to help it.

Working together seems impossible and it will certainly take some convincing. But you can’t force the issue.

You love each other partially because you have all been wounded in the same way and feel no outsider will understand.

It’s scary out here. I get it.. But you’re never going to truly heal or attain your goals within a group that uses abuse to control you.

Do you remember your own goals?

And you do, secretly, think there’s something wrong. But that’s easy to blame on “outsiders”.

Look I don’t want to tell you it’s easy out here. I want to let you know I understand and I love you and your love for each other is real. But your environment is hurting you.