Sylvanna Devlin

All forms of abuse crosses boundaries. They’re key to psychological wellbeing. It also revels a level of disrespect it can at minimum generate constant anxiety and at the worst, entirely suppress personality.

Boundaries define our interaction with the world. And thus differs in different cultures. Most are familiar with the different train rides in Tokyo vs The Bay Area (California, USA)

The idea of personal space is easy to recognize in the physical world but also a good way to describe our need for mental privacy and room to exist.

Ignoring boundaries is not only aggravating but sometimes dangerous. And some even abuse the very word “Boundary” to inflict abuse and deny response.

Ignoring them can be as dangerous as ignoring a locked door, or more subtle. It can affect you emotionally, and affect your ability to communicate what’s happening, as well as other forms of cognitive abuse.

As a note, trying to force communication is the same so psychologists need to know when to back off, and others need to respect hiding in the bathroom to cry.

Usually you would learn them as subconscious “rules” on what to say, how to act, even how to perceive the world.

But they can be learned in adulthood if one didn’t grow up with them.

And be fair, those not taught them, had them heavily abused and crossed, or by reputation those who struggle with social cues but learned of them?

Can be pretty defensive of theirs. Fairly so.

Have some respect.